When you finally realize that at some point you have lost yourself. Where do you go to pick yourself back up and start again?

As I look in the mirror the tired eyes look back at me. Dark circles from being up and down all night with a three year old who refuses to sleep in her own bed. My hair loosely tied back with two days worth of dry shampoo. Slouchy clothes, from years before no where close to fitting.

You hear the bigger kids in the other room arguing over who’s watching the tv. You sigh and wash your face as you try to steel yourself for another day. Take a deep breath and do it all over again.

You have lost yourself.

I love my kids, they are the reason I breathe every day but sometimes there are days where the arguing from them drives me up the wall, or they won’t eat dinner after I’ve worked hard to make it. Or when you are just completely touched out. And then the mom guilt kicks in and I feel horrible for feeling that way.

I have four kids ages 9 to 3. There is never a dull moment in my household. I wouldn’t trade it for anything. But I have realized that I had lost myself somewhere in the midst of being a mom. That was who I had become, I was mama, there was no Kansas any longer. My identity revolved around that role.

After so long not taking care of myself I decided it was time to find me again. I started with looking for some functional clothing that helped me be comfy but also look nice and that’s when I found the beautiful Duffield Lane line of clothing. I think my favorite item is the Brooklyn Cardigan. This beautiful Cardigan is so soft and goes with any outfit to keep you warm and looking stylish.

And I think my favorite dress that they make is the stunning Blaine Dress. I love how it goes with everything. You can dress it up or pair it down. Perfect for church or a PTA meeting. This dress is flattering on any shape, even mine and it’s hard to find self-love after carrying and birthing four kids. If you are interested in finding your perfect fit or style check out their website, Facebook, or Instagram.

It’s not always easy learning to take care of yourself again. Just know that you are worth it. If you can’t take care of yourself and put your mental health first, it’s going to make it hard to put that into your home. As mom’s, we tend to feel like we have lost yourself and put everyone but yourself first. So mom to mom just let me say…

YOU MATTER!

You are WORTH it.

You are doing an amazing job momma, keep your head up!

You haven’t lost yourself!